• Monday, August 31, 2009
  • This is one of the reasons why outdoor weddings scare me as a pastor


  • Monday, August 17, 2009

    “In all or nurturing as parents, the gospel must be central. It is the only hope of forgiveness. It is the only hope for deep internal change. It is the only hope for power to live. The grace of the gospel is the center of everything for Christian parents.”

    The home that needs to worry about hypocrisy is the one where the focus is probably on the behavior and not the heart. This makes the child think that their problem is what they are doing rather than what they are.

    Some of the needs that our child may have that are addressed by the gospel:
    1. Cleansing – their thoughts, motives and actions can be renewed.
    2. Forgiveness – based upon the payment by Jesus Christ. He loved us so much that He gave His life as a ransom, paid the penalty for ours sins and so forgiveness is on the basis of these payments.
    3. Empowerment – we need empowerment by the Holy Spirit to accomplish internal change, find joy in God and live in a self-sacrificing and gracious way of life.

    How can the gospel be displayed in correction?
    By nurturing and discipling your child. It is an opportunity to speak of discipleship, ministry, and grace.

    1. Do you know the gospel well enough that you can express it in everyday events?
    2. In your form of discipline and correction, have you been able to change your child’s behavior by reaching the heart? How?
    3. How can the gospel be applied in a correction situation?
    4. Compare Ezekiel 36: 25-27 with John 3: 1-21.
    How is the cleansing of sin portrayed?
    How is forgiveness expressed?
    How are internal changes seen?
    How is empowerment accomplished?
    5. Why is it so important to emphasize grace? How is it seen?


  • Tuesday, August 11, 2009
    I don't recommend you teach your child to do this but you have to admire the effort for help!



  • Wednesday, August 5, 2009

  • Chapter 14 – COMMUNICATION

    Have you ever considered a communication strategy to your parenting? Your design for parenting directs what strategy you will use. When you are using a strategy of behavior modification, we usually fall into a “tell it like it is” form of communication. Those who let their children learn by discovery often use a “let it all hang out” strategy.

    In approaching our children with a gospel-centered approach, the Tripps offer that we first speak with restraint, employing pleasant words and delighting to understand them. This approach reflects the wisdom of God’s Word:

    Proverbs 17:27 - Whoever restrains his words has knowledge, and he who has a cool spirit is a man of understanding.

    Prov 15: 28 - The heart of the righteous ponders how to answer, but the mouth of the wicked pours out evil things.

    Prov 29:20 - Do you see a man who is hasty in his words? There is more hope for a fool than for him.

    Prov 16:21 - The wise of heart is called discerning, and sweetness of speech increases persuasiveness.

    Eccl 6:11 - The more words, the more vanity, and what is the advantage to man?

    Eccl 9:17 - The words of the wise heard in quiet are better than the shouting of a ruler among fools.

    The goal of communication is to understand each other. To do so to your child is to only encourage them to communicate more to you because you are showing you are really interested in what they are thinking. Proverbs 20:5 says, “The purpose in a man's heart is like deep water, but a man of understanding will draw it out.”


    1. What is your style of communication to your children? Do you “tell it like it is?” “Let it all hang out?” Speak with restraint, honesty, frankness and candor?

    2. Have you ever wearied your children with your words? What often happens when your conversation carries on too long with them?

    3. Have you ever said something you regret with your children? How can you prevent this from happening?

    4. What hurdles do you put before your children when your words are harsh, loud, demanding, or demeaning?

    5. How can you help your child know they are loved unconditionally and accepted so they feel safe sharing their deep and confusing thoughts?

    6. How can you help your child when they answer you with “I don’t know?”

    A recommended resource to you is “Everyday Talk, Talking Freely and Naturally About God with your Children,” by John Younts.